The feelings I have aren’t the same all the time.
“I am a woman” like “I am a mathematician”, it’s a part of my identity that arises from experiences, I’m always one even though I’m not always actively one and I’m always a man too. 😊
Well!! I’ve been having thoughts about femininity for 5+ years and sometimes saying some things. But I decided I’m genderfluid in 2024. I’m AMAB and not doing anything to transition. So when I make posts on here when I’m a girl I just say femboy so people don’t make wrong assumptions about what my body is. Works for me 😂
Not planning on hormones (or surgeries) at the moment bcs I feel like me rn too, me is just feminine (I’m nonbinary transfeminine)
In the society we live in, there are assumptions about men that aren’t true about me and I don’t want them to be. I communicate this by using different words. There isn’t an external factor that my feelings have to match. What I want to say is what is true. (I say this as a person who is comfortable having the typical physical characteristics of most men. It’s not my fault that our culture tries to use the same words for gender and sex. My perspective of people insisting on a different meaning for words is that it is just unhelpful. It is not really even the kind of thing that can be ‘wrong’.)
I should say, obviously cis men are not all walking stereotypes. Since it is a difference in feeling, I wouldn’t say there is an obvious describable difference between me and a feminine cis man. Indeed it is only recently that this line of reasoning that using words is a way to tell people things made me decide to use these words - it feels good (and true) to start people off with better assumptions.
Basically I feel differently at different times and I want to express that and be seen as how I am. For me this is an entirely positive experience, honestly. I feel very little to no dysphoria. I am not speaking on behalf of other people who may feel very different to me.
I’m a femme person, so… it happened and I found a word for it haha. A little bit of my life story is that I always had mostly girl friends and anyway then I tried on a friend’s cute skirt in high school. I’m pretty sure I said “femboy” occasionally online around the same time and I remember having a few conversations about it with my best friend, taking quizzes and stuff. I occasionally randomly got a few femme clothes but really didn’t have full outfits for ages lol. Since 2024 I have like been out to everyone and been shopping in the women’s section type thing.